Marriage

From Coffee Date to Costco Dash

From Coffee Date to Costco Dash
Yesterday I had the opportunity to meet up with my husband, who was leaving work a bit early. I had to drop off two teenage boys for a hike with friends (extra important given the recent lockdown). Since their meeting place was near my husband's route, and since my other children were well cared for (our nurse with Verity, our special-needs daughter, and teenage daughters watching the youngers), I thought it would be a good opportunity to grab a quick "date" with Ted.

We met in the Costco parking lot with nary a coffee shop in sight.

And we needed milk, eggs, lettuce, and...

And so...we ended up speeding through Costco (wearing masks and socially distancing, of course), checking out in record time, even purchasing toilet paper! (Perhaps life really IS returning to normal after all?!)

Our time was limited, and now we had perishable groceries to put away. So...we got in our separate vehicles and drove home.

What just happened?! A date is rare these days...why didn't we take advantage of the time alone to find a place to sit and talk? We let practicality win out. It takes time and effort to get to Costco from where we live, and since we were close...well, why NOT get our cartful of groceries and call it a day?!

This rambling post could focus on the importance of dating your spouse...which is certainly a worthy topic. I love dating my husband, and I'm all too aware that we desperately need to make that more of a priority, especially in this season of life when we have kids getting married and going to college as well as littles who still suck the life force out of us most days. I cherish time we can spend together, even if it's a simple walk in the neighborhood.

But God gave me an analogy last night as I was closing my eyes that burned into my brain so vividly I was still thinking about it when I went for a walk early this morning...

Maybe I don't exactly "date" God, but I do have an intimate relationship with Him, and I do make my time with Him a daily priority. Yet my prayer life often feels disjointed and scattered. All too often I intend to have a "coffee date" with my Lord and Savior (a relaxed time of praying, praising, and listening), only to find myself mentally rushing off to "Costco" (going over my to-do list)!

What is that phrase? The tyranny of the urgent? Why is it so hard to slow down, stop even, and listen? This is something I must continue working on. For my mental, emotional, and certainly spiritual health, I NEED those "coffee dates" with Jesus. I need to stop running mental errands and instead quiet my heart and mind. 

Costco can wait.

Psalm 46:10..."Be still and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations; I will be exalted in the earth."
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When I heard the words "incompatible with life" in connection with the baby doing gymnastics in my belly, I was devastated, confused, and overwhelmed. I was scared nothing would ever be normal again...in my marriage, in our family, or in any of the passions I used to have that I now felt were slowly slipping away.

It was a dark, difficult time. And I knew something had to change. I yearned for everyone in our family to THRIVE, not simply survive! 
 
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